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A true story of how I grew up in a wonderful home knowing the love of two parents and knowing the love of a mother I had never met.

A Letter to My Birth Mom

Dear Sharon,

I've never had the chance to truly tell you how your decision to make an adoption plan for me has impacted my life. I know a bit of your story which led to my adoption, and I'd like you to know a bit of mine. Shortly after my birth, I was placed in a loving family that had previously adopted a little girl. They wanted two girls, so I made our family complete. My adoptive mother wanted nothing more than to be a mom, but she was unable to conceive.  She was thrilled to have her little girls and dedicated her life to our care.  She made me clothes, cooked and taught me to bake. In addition, I was the apple of my adoptive father's eye. He taught me about camping and fishing. They both supported me in my interests. I always knew I was adopted and that I had a birth mother who was so beautifully self-less that she made the difficult choice to give me a family and home that she was unable to provide.  This is the gift that you gave me, and I know it must have been very difficult since you were unwed and pregnant. I want to thank you for valuing me enough to withstand all those difficult moments and feelings. Because of your act of love, I grew up in a wonderful home knowing the love of two parents and knowing the love of a mother who I had never met. I was proud of being adopted, that I had a unique story with more than one mother; both are equally important in the life given to me, how I perceive the world and the life that I have led.  Thank you, Sharon for being an incredible mother to me in a way that mattered most. I treasure who you are and I am blessed that my life began with you.


Love,

Monica
 

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If you have experienced pregnancy or neonatal loss, you are not alone

Pregnancy Loss Support

If you have experienced a pregnancy loss or neonatal loss you may be feeling pain that is difficult for others to understand. At Open Arms, we want you to know that you are not alone. One of the resources we always share with our clients who have experienced pregnancy or neonatal loss is In Loving Arms. In Loving Arms is a six-week support class that comes alongside hurting mothers and fathers and helps them heal and find comfort. Over the course of the six weeks of classes you will explore tough questions together with others who are also going through loss and hear testimonies from mothers and fathers who have found healing after the loss of their baby.

Tony and Kat shared, "This support came at a much-needed time in our life. It provided a safe place for us to grieve and heal alongside other hurting moms and dad."

To find out more about In Loving Arms and to register for their next 6-week session, please go to: https://www.inlovingarms4.com/ You can also call 818-927-2767 or email support@inlovingarms4.com.

This past year In Loving Arms planned a Wave of Light event to gather the community of those who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss. During this special event, parents who lost their babies came together and wrote down their babies' names and displayed them on a board together to honor their children. They also held candles together as they reflected and remembered their little ones. To see a short video clip from this year's Wave of Light event, please click here.

In addition to In Loving Arms, another resource we point clients to is the website Miscarriagehurts.com. On this website you will find helpful information including:

  • Exploring emotions as an important part of working through the loss of your child
  • Identifying losses and putting a name to them to help bring relief
  • Building support and reaching out to others to receive help
  • Telling your story to help you grieve
  • Identifying unhealthy behaviors and receiving resources to help with specific unhealthy behaviors that may develop

Again, at Open Arms we want you to know that you are not alone. If you need someone to talk to or would like to find help, please feel free to contact our office at 818-626-9400.

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