As you are figuring out what to do, we want you to know you have options. While this is your decision, you do not have to make it on your own. The staff at Open Arms Pregnancy Clinic is here to help you. It costs you nothing to come in and talk with us. That is why we are here.
You have a decision to make. Don't panic and make a decision you may regret. Take your time to learn and be fully informed. The most important thing to remember is this should be your choice. No one has the right to tell you what to do.
If you know that parenting is out of the question due to your financial situation, age, or other factors, you still have choices. Your other options include abortion and adoption. As you explore both options, here are some things to consider.
Any time you are altering your body with drugs or surgery, understand there is always the possibility of complications. Before you make this choice, you need to consult with a medical professional who knows your health history.
Did you know 64% of women who have abortions do so because someone is pressuring them? Whether it is parents, the baby's father, or well-meaning friends, their advice may not be what you want. You must make this choice for yourself regardless of what others say.
Other women choose abortion because they feel people will judge them for their unplanned pregnancy. They think the "quick fix" of abortion will keep a secret or make the "problem" go away.
Is it as easy as that? Abortion is a final solution. Once you have chosen to abort, there is no turning back. If the reason you choose to abort is to keep the unplanned pregnancy a secret, you would then carry two secrets alone which is one reason many women report feeling a sense of guilt, regret, and loss after abortion.
Ask yourself these questions:
- How do I personally feel about abortion?
- What do my parents, boyfriend, and friends think about abortion?
- Do I feel pressured in any way to have an abortion?
- Is it possible I will feel regret after having an abortion?
Often, women do not consider adoption as an option. Either they have never known anyone involved with adoption, or they do not understand how adoption has changed over the years.
There was a time when adoption was considered "giving up" a baby. The doctor or adoption agency chose the family for the birthmother. Neither she nor the adopting family had any information about each other. Birthmothers were expected to end their relationship with their child.
Times have changed. Today, the birthmother (and birthfather, if possible) chooses the family. You review several portfolios that include photos and a biography about prospective adopting families. In addition, you select the type of adoption you want. They can range from an open adoption that shares all contact information and allows you to know your child to a completely closed adoption that shares no identifying information.
Adoption is not an easy choice to make, either, and can also lead to a feeling of loss. However, when you choose adoption, you can maintain a relationship with your child if you want to and have the satisfaction of watching them grow and thrive.
Ask yourself these questions:
- How do I personally feel about adoption?
- What do my parents, boyfriend, and friends think about adoption?
- Would I want to maintain contact with my child through adoption?
- Is it possible I will feel regret after choosing adoption?
Open Arms Pregnancy Clinic has licensed medical professionals here to help you. We treat each patient with dignity and compassion, providing accurate and truthful information on all options.
Before you can decide, you need to do two things. You need to have a pregnancy test and ultrasound, both of which are offered at no cost at the Open Arms Clinic. Contact us today. Call or text 818-626-9400. We will help you think through your pregnancy-related decisions.