AN IMPORTANT OPPORTUNITY
Your pregnancy test came back negative. You may be feeling a huge sense of relief right now. In fact, you may have come in today feeling very nervous and worried at the thought of the possibility of being pregnant. Or maybe you are feeling sad or have mixed emotions. Either way, these emotions are completely understandable because your life could have changed drastically as a result of that pregnancy test.
So what should you do now? Your emotions leading up to taking the pregnancy test today are helpful in revealing how you really feel about the potential of being a parent and perhaps how you feel about your partner. Now is the perfect time to consider what steps you can take for your future. Consider this time as an important opportunity to evaluate your choices, especially regarding your relationship with your partner and your sexual intimacy with him.
HERE ARE SOME QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:
- Am I prepared to be a parent? Am I okay with the possibility of being pregnant?
- Do I see a future with my partner? Would I want him to be the father of my children?
- If I was worried or nervous about this situation, what ways can I be protecting myself from a similar situation again?
- In what ways might I have been putting myself at risk with my sexual choices?
We are holistic beings, and as holistic beings, engaging in sexual activity affects our emotional, spiritual, and physical health.
CREATE AN ACTION PLAN
If you are not ready to be a parent and you want to avoid any risk of infection with a sexually transmitted disease, consider talking to one of our case managers at the clinic today about creating an action plan together. The only 100% guaranteed way of preventing pregnancy or infection with a sexually transmitted disease is to practice sexual risk avoidance (abstaining from any sexual contact outside of a committed marriage relationship). All other methods leave you at some form of risk. Birth control pills provide no protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and condoms have been shown to provide only some protection from some diseases.1 The FDA publishes expected pregnancy rates with condom usage. Normally, around 2% of condoms are expected to break, but for each year of "typical" condom use, the pregnancy rate is 15%.2 Each year, 18 out of 100 women become pregnant using birth control pills.3 In addition, in America, there is a growing epidemic of STDs. It is estimated over 110 million people are now infected and 20 million new infections occur each year.4 Almost half of these new infections are in young people, 15 to 24 years old.5
TAKE OUR POSITIVE PARTNERSHIP CLASS
If you are wondering what steps to take next in your relationship with your partner, our clinic provides Positive Partnership classes that are available to you to help you navigate through your relationship and to help you make intentional choices that will benefit your future. These classes include two modules, one for men and one for women, which teach vital information about relationships and marriage. If you think your partner can benefit from man-to-man support, we also have a male case manager on staff who would be happy to meet with him to discuss any questions he may have about his role.
All of our case managers are here to listen to you, to equip you, educate you, and empower you to make informed decisions about your life and to discuss how these decisions impact you emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
If you have any questions or would like more information, please do not hesitate to contact us or visit us again.
1National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases. Workshop Summary: Scientific Evidence on Condom Effectiveness for Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) Prevention. Herndon, VA: Hyatt Dulles Airport, June 12-13, 2000 and the follow-up report: Fact Sheet for Public Health Personnel, Male Latex Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases, found at: http://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/latex.htm, accessed 3-23-2017.
2Commissioner, Office of the. "HIV/AIDS Prevention – Condoms: Barriers to Bad News." US Food and Drug Administration Home Page, Office of the Commissioner, https://www.fda.gov/ForPatients/Illness/HIVAIDS/Prevention/default.htm, accessed on 12-20-17.
3U.S. Food and Drug Administration, Birth control: Medicines To Help You, found at http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/ByAudience/ForWomen/FreePublications/ucm313215.htm, accessed 3-23-2017.
4"Sexually Transmitted Diseases." Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 8 Dec. 2017, www.cdc.gov/std/life-stages-populations/adolescents-youngadults.htm, accessed 12-20-2017.
5"Sexually Transmitted Diseases." Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 8 Dec. 2017, www.cdc.gov/std/life-stages-populations/adolescents-youngadults.htm, accessed 12-20-2017.