Telling your parents you are pregnant can be intimidating and scary, especially if you are a student and the pregnancy was unplanned. But, after adjusting to the news, they may become a source of support through this journey.
Here are some tips for having this conversation with your parents.
Pick a good time
Timing matters. People tend to be more emotional when they're tired, so late at night might not be the best time to have this conversation with them. Also take into consideration what else is going on and try to pick a time when they're less busy.
Let your parents know you want to have a conversation with them about something important so they can prioritize it and be prepared to listen.
Take someone with you
If you're concerned about how your parents will react and fear they'll be upset, plan to have someone supportive with you when you tell them. Consider bringing along another family member, the father of the baby, or a friend. Having some moral support, and someone who can advocate for you, can be very helpful.
Prepare for their questions
They'll likely want to know details, especially if they don't know much about your relationship with the father of the baby. Be emotionally and mentally prepared for their questions about who, what, when, where, and how long you've known. If they were not aware that you have been sexually active, take into consideration their possible shock at this news as well.
Present a plan
You are likely still processing the fact that you're pregnant so you don't have to have all the details figured out yet, but begin putting together a plan for your pregnancy in order to show responsibility and that you're taking this seriously. This will help reassure them you're thinking this through and are beginning to take action to prepare.
If you need help putting together a plan or want to discuss more tips about having this conversation with your parents, please schedule an appointment to see us. We offer free counseling sessions to help you process your unplanned pregnancy and can help you prepare for this important conversation as well.
Give them time
You've had some time to adjust to the news of your pregnancy, and it's reasonable to expect your parents to need some time to adjust as well. It's important to understand that how they react initially won't necessarily be how they will feel later. Give them time to adjust to the news, and avoid making a rushed or panicked decision.
No one can force you
Many women make a decision they really don't want regarding their unplanned pregnancy because people close to them pressured them into it. As you tell your parents about your pregnancy, remember that ultimately the decision about what you do is up to you. Yes, you'll likely need their support, especially if you're still in school. But that doesn't mean they can force you to make a decision against your will.
Remember, you are not alone. If you need support, guidance, resources, or just a listening ear, the Open Arms Pregnancy Clinic is here for you.
Feel free to schedule an appointment for our free services. We are here to help.